From me to you...

I love interacting with people and hearing their stories, it gives me a sense of inclusion and has been the source to answers for many questions in my own life…

 

Unknowingly at unexpected moments in time, a cord is struck in a conversation that turns to be that turning point in life, which will steer you to your desired destination; like a secret passage. But there are stages to it and won’t magically appear as a guide to life unless you look out for them.

 

There are 3 stages to finding those turning points in life and hopefully the story below will help convey my thoughts on them:

 

The story begins when I was a kid and my parents were teaching me about the joys of giving, but as a child one gives into obedience without understanding the reasons for doing things; so like an obedient lad I followed through. This was the first stage: An experience.

 

Many years later as a young adult, I found myself around a group of kids and almost like a reflex I landed up teaching them how to share their toys and play together. My intentions were to pass on a foundation of being a good human being. This was the second stage: Helping someone by sharing your experience to deal with their own situation.

 

There was a second lesson hidden in the merits of sharing which I realised was engraved in my DNA like a code, only to come to the surface because I was privileged to see one of those kids take ownership of the teaching I gave him and implement it with a new group of kids at another time. This was the third stage: A perspective was born because we relived our original experience as a 3rd person.

Now to explain these 3 stages in a nutshell I would like to call out that this second lesson realised was only because I saw the positive impact that my parents were trying to impart being played like a live feed in front of my eyes many decades later. Fortunately this time I was experiencing it as a 3rd person which helped give meaning to my unquestioned obedience as a child; this was the birth of my perspective…

 

My second lesson realised is the reason that I have asked people the question, that if they could go back in time and tell their younger selves one piece of advice, what would it be? And in almost all those conversations the reply has been, “To follow my heart and not worry about the immediate outcome because in the long run everything will be just fine”… The irony of this answer was that they had experienced this second lesson too, but needed a perspective to realise it and hopefully my question would help point them in that direction…

I am not sure of the immediate impact those perspective seeking conversations have had on people but I do know that I am at that stage of my life where I no longer have space for regret because I have been luck to have received my message from my future self…

 

I know that all these questions and answers are hypothetical situations which are great exercises to stay positive; but one might argue that as adults the only way we learn is via experience so how does this solve that problem?

 

Well it’s simple, instead of seeking advice, try to help someone else overcome their challenges instead because that way dealing with the what next and what if questions that follow a testing time in your life will fall into perspective for you when you experience your own issues as a 3rd person trying to help them… It would be an eye opener to say the least and a blessing to be there for another person to say the most…

You will be pleasantly surprised that you always had the answers but were only looking for an acknowledgement from others when you asked for help, however now when you have that same responsibility of being a motivational support for another, you will get the best directions for yourself in those conversations…

 

Well I guess our parents were right, that learning to share is a good thing; I only realise now that it was for times when I needed to find myself in my own journey and hopefully earn a fried or two in the process…

 

So lets pass it forward and make the world a better place to live in; one person at a time, from me to you and the change starts with ourselves!

 

I have said this before but will say it again, that sometimes a change in circumstances will not make things better, but a change in perspective will always make the difference…

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